Body positivity can be difficult sometimes. It’s been a constant battle between me and my body. Wearing something that I think makes me look bad can cause an insane amount of anxiety. Everyone has those days where everything in their closet seems stupid and ugly. Without self-care and affirmations, those days can be far too often.
My goal was to try and look like a Victoria’s Secret Angel. There are a couple of things wrong with that. First of all, I’m two inches over five feet so there will never be a day where I get to be in a fashion show. My legs will forever be too short! Second, my body doesn’t have the same look or build so it would physically be impossible to look like that. Third, I thought that my eating habits were what kept me away from that image.
Food is not my enemy, but instead a way to enjoy life a bit more. Every time I feel guilty for eating a cookie I interrupt my negative thoughts with a positive one. I do try to eat food with fewer calories and cholesterol for my health, but I don’t diet anymore. Foods with more nutrients keep me energized and I get more done. Feeling good is what matters, not the way my body may look because even if it isn’t “perfect” it is happy and healthy.
Body image can be a pain in the ass. There is no reason for me to try and look like a Victoria’s Secret Angel because I look the way I do. Different clothes fit my body and that is okay! We are all different in many ways and that includes our bodies. That whole one size fits all thing that happens for some clothing brands is a lie. There was a time when I felt horrible if the OS clothing didn’t fit. After I realized how I wasn’t the issue, the clothes were, I began to feel a bit better. I will still try OS on and if it fits great, but if it doesn’t then it just wasn’t meant for my size and that is ok!
If you feel the same things or used to, that’s okay. It can be changed, it may not be easy, but it is possible. What has been a game-changer for me and my mindset is self talk. I wrote on my mirror with a dry erase marker and wrote supportive words. Here are 20 affirmations that may be helpful to you. It may take a bit, but day by day you will improve and become more positive about your body. It takes 21 days to make a habit so don’t stop doing it! Keep going until it comes naturally.
Your body does so much every day. It deserves love and to be treated well. Eat to keep it energized, dress it in things you like, and get moving to keep you up. There is no reason to doubt your worth, we are all made a certain way. I will no longer be upset over the tummy I have or the stretch marks on my thighs. Here’s to being confident and being body positive!
Also, I found the cutest body positivity coloring book. Click here to see it because I think it’s the best thing I’ve ever seen.
***If you or someone you know may be struggling with an eating disorder please reach out to seek help. There are multiple resources available at this time. Telehealth appointments are happening until the coronavirus goes away. The Eating Disorder Foundation provides resources, FAQS, and support groups.