One of my biggest difficulties is feeling confused about what I am doing. I am the queen of second guessing myself and sometimes I just feel lost. This isn’t a huge deal and it has never held me back. I just always have this feeling in the back of my head that I should be doing more. I should be working harder, longer and more dedicated. I struggle with taking a step back and being able to be okay with work I have done. Naturally I took a minute to sit, think and attempted to figure out how to fix this. This is what I came up with.
- Make a list of everything you have done this past week. Or month, year, and maybe even your lifetime. Write it all down. It can be little things like getting out of bed (this is really helpful for people struggling from depression!!) or big things like graduating high school and college. Once you realize everything you’ve done you’ll have an easier time with being content. You should be content because you’re doing the best you can. Sometimes you just need a reminder and there’s nothing wrong with that.
- Self talk. I have flash cards that tell me what to say when I have anxiety attacks. It helps me because usually my mind is so clouded I can’t remember what to say. I take them out or one of my friends will and start to read them. It works wonders. Do this for when you don’t feel like you’re doing enough.
What to put on your cards
- I am enough.
- I will be successful.
- I am doing the best I can and that is all I can do.
- I am the farthest I have gone yet.
- I got up, I got dressed and took on the day. I did great.
Yes I know, I sound crazy. I am telling you though this works for me so try it on you.
- Create an achievable to-do list. Plan out your day and write down what you want to get done. Make it realistic and practical. Then make sure you wake up with enough time to give yourself the opportunity to get them all crossed off. If you want you can check it off one by one as you do it throughout the day. At the end take a minute to reflect. Look at your list and think of everything you have accomplished. Keep doing it until you realize how much you are actually doing everyday. You are doing great- I promise!
- Look up positive quotes until you can’t be anything, but positive. I do this probably daily. You might even want to throw up with all of the over the top, positive quotes I have scattered on my phone. They’re printed and hung on my walls at home and at school. I write them all over my notebooks, I text them to my friends and I put them on my Instagram story daily. It’s definitely a part of me. You should do this too. It doesn’t have to be as much as me, but definitely keep one on your lock screen to look at quickly. Hang one up on your office wall. Look at it and remember you’re killing it.
- Take a minute to just sit there and breathe. This seems so simple, yet often forgotten. Get an app to give you reminders throughout the day. It helps clear your head and calm your heart down. It really works wonders whenever you are stressed, sad, or even angry. If you can take a minute to breathe suddenly it doesn’t all seem bad.
Mix and match all of these to create a routine that works for you. It will help you realize just how amazing you’re doing. You are doing enough and if you’re not well then email me. I am great at bossing people around.