why is being happy so hard?

See here’s the thing, it isn’t. We tend to make being happy hard. We overthink, overanalyze, and stress way too much. For what? If you go in a room full of people and go to each one to ask what they want in life they will most likely say “happiness.” If they don’t say happiness then they’ll say money. If they say money then I would stop being friends with them and get them out of that room.

Social media causes people to have a false representation of other lives. Often we forget that people aren’t going to be what they say online. No one wants to write about how their boyfriend dumped them or they failed a class at school. That image isn’t what people strive for. If that’s made public then everyone ends up judging them without knowing it all. That is unnecessary.

So we see what people want us to see and that’s okay. Most feel better posting about positivity and happy pictures. So while it is good to not post the bad things we still have to remember that everyone is human. Which means every person is struggling in their way. There is no reason to wish to want to be someone else. No reason at all.

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Jealousy is what can often leave people in my generation feeling unhappy. They want to look like someone or be as smart as someone and even date someone specifically. Then they get jealous because what they see is someone having this great life, but that’s not the case. Social media is used religiously by young people and they know exactly how to manipulate it to make everything look pretty and perfect.

There is no reason to be miserable. Unfollow the people that seem so “perfect” (even though they are far from it) and figure out what will make you happy. If you take the time to write down what you want from life it will make a difference. Change whatever makes you feel not good and don’t say you can’t change things. You are in charge of your life. If you can’t change it you can make the best out of it. Stop making happiness so hard to meet. People do it to themselves and blame it on outside sources. No one is to blame except yourself. I know this because I used to be very unhappy. I was angry, depressed, anxious and sad. I blamed outside sources for most things and then I sat down and made a list.

I got help for my mental health issues. I stepped away from both friends and family that caused me a lot of negative stress. I figured out that I don’t have to be completely in control of my life. I found happiness. It sounds easy, but it was a development and took time.

If I can do it I have faith that you can too. Stop making it so hard for yourself. Take control of who you are and love it. Create yourself and figure out what makes you the happiest. Being happy isn’t hard, it’s just process sometimes.